if snoring is truly the ONLY issue, get those nose strips and blammo. snoring stops. i know they work because we have had to buy them for noisy campers with my mom in previous years. one of the tenters would snore so loudly that was with us it would even keep my mom awake in her trailer.

but then again, if they have just gone to being roommates without trying anything else i would say it sounds like other stuff is going on and they need to work on them and not the snoring issue (excuse?).

i sleep alone most nights but i sleep like a baby when Raspy is here. we talk and giggle and snuggle and its just a really lovely time.

Debra – What if they’re “gently breathing” onto the back of your neck or in your face? I find that irritating.

Hallie – What great photos! I always try to take pictures of my daughters crazy outfits too so I can show them to her and laugh when she’s older. I make careful notes to the effect that I DID try to talk her out of whatever she has on.

Nat – I could make a case for separate homes while still maintaining a committed relationship, but it’s obviously not something too many people would choose. Also I guess it’s whatever you get used to.

MisssyM – Indeed!

These comments certainly indicate that this is not always the case. Beds are for so much more than cementing marital relations sexually. In fact, if you are getting no sleep for all the wrong reasons a shared bed could mean more marital problems.

As for seperate homes, it would be silly. You can’t have daily snuggles if you don’t live together. And if you are, then what the hell is the point in doubling the rent.

here is a cautionary (and hilarious) tale on the wardrobe of
someone still traumatized by the 1980’s. as she rightly should be:
http://www.mylifeissoawkward.com/black.html

if you read through to the bottom, you’ll see a damning remark from her dad. which i interpreted to mean, ‘even if you really love something, you may live to regret it.’

hmm. food for thought.

i have not yet regretted getting my sleep, but i suppose if SuperG and i ever split up, there will be people who point to our sleep habits as evidence that we were never really meant for each other or something. i’m willing to live with that. no one else really knows all the *rest* of the shit i/we have put up with of each other’s, so. HA!

That said, I’ve never slept with a snorer so if that should happen, I may negate everything said here.

LGS – See, now I wouldn’t be able to sleep at all if I knew I wasn’t allowed to turn over for a while. It would be all I could think about…can’t turn over…can’t turn over… and I’d get all uncomfortable and agitated and then wouldn’t be able to sleep all night. But I’m glad it works for you.

AuntieHallie – Don’t worry about it. I don’t think anyone here is that hypersensitive. I don’t think anyone hypersensitive would read my blog for very long. Colette for sure is going to do what’s right for her no matter what other people might say. She was just curious to see what sort of arrangements other couples had. And, I still don’t know what puff painted clothing is, though.

Leah – Ya, I don’t think the question was so much if we thought it was right or wrong, just a general survey on whether people enjoyed sleeping together or not and/or what others out there are doing

i’m not against married couples living in separate houses so separate beds aren’t an issue for me i guess

i think whatever feels right to the couple is whatever is right for them. i snore and grind my teeth and the husband has complained of not sleeping well with it.

it is a good way to continue intimacy in a partnership, continuing with the commitment of marriage.