http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/ I got sole Sun, 08 Nov 2009 03:09:25 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-43 XUP Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:43:00 +0000 http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-43 bandobras- that's tempting, believe me, but a 15 year old is not wise enough to be let loose to make her own mistakes & not a day goes by that I don't kick myself for making a lot of crappy choices when I was young. I don't want her to have an "if-only" life. bandobras- that’s tempting, believe me, but a 15 year old is not wise enough to be let loose to make her own mistakes & not a day goes by that I don’t kick myself for making a lot of crappy choices when I was young. I don’t want her to have an “if-only” life.

]]> http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-42 Bandobras Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:38:00 +0000 http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-42 As a somewhat delinquent student myself, I took 13 yrs to get my degree, I;m dismayed that more people don't realize that the drive to arrive at a specific spot at a specific age is all unnecessary. Yes as a parent you have to help urge the child to do what you think will be best for her, but it doesn't have to have the time pressure you seem to feel. Few people are going to get "a" job and spend a career in it like most of our generation could but they can change jobs. In fact they probably won't have any choice. Relax, trust that you've already done all the heavy lifting in forming your daughters charachter and now let her find her own way. She'll fall, she'll fail, she'll skin her knee. She'll also get up again and go on in ways none of us can imagine today. Enjoy the rip and let the destination take care of itself. As a somewhat delinquent student myself, I took 13 yrs to get my degree, I;m dismayed that more people don’t realize that the drive to arrive at a specific spot at a specific age is all unnecessary. Yes as a parent you have to help urge the child to do what you think will be best for her, but it doesn’t have to have the time pressure you seem to feel. Few people are going to get “a” job and spend a career in it like most of our generation could but they can change jobs. In fact they probably won’t have any choice. Relax, trust that you’ve already done all the heavy lifting in forming your daughters charachter and now let her find her own way. She’ll fall, she’ll fail, she’ll skin her knee. She’ll also get up again and go on in ways none of us can imagine today. Enjoy the rip and let the destination take care of itself.

]]> http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-35 XUP Sat, 26 Apr 2008 21:28:00 +0000 http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-35 You think? When I was in high school only a handful of people aspired to university & if they had the tuition or could get a grant that's all they needed -- it was a real egghead thing to do. Most people just went to college or just straight to work. Now EVERYBODY has to go to university and the competition to get in is fierce. You think? When I was in high school only a handful of people aspired to university & if they had the tuition or could get a grant that’s all they needed — it was a real egghead thing to do. Most people just went to college or just straight to work. Now EVERYBODY has to go to university and the competition to get in is fierce.

]]> http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-34 JB Fri, 25 Apr 2008 19:04:00 +0000 http://exurbanpedestrian.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/yute/#comment-34 It really doesn't sound much different than what my father told me through my days as a young aspiring musician, skipping my music classes at Dalhousie because I was up late the night before for a gig at a downtown bar. <br/>Not too much has changed, I think - aside from you being on the other side of it now. <br/>Certainly, there are horrible things like school shootings that we would never have imagined when we were kids - but the pressures of being successful and happy might seem more magnified to you because you've been through it once already.<br/>However, my opinion may change once my two-year-olds are a few years older. It really doesn’t sound much different than what my father told me through my days as a young aspiring musician, skipping my music classes at Dalhousie because I was up late the night before for a gig at a downtown bar.
Not too much has changed, I think – aside from you being on the other side of it now.
Certainly, there are horrible things like school shootings that we would never have imagined when we were kids – but the pressures of being successful and happy might seem more magnified to you because you’ve been through it once already.
However, my opinion may change once my two-year-olds are a few years older.

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